Almost a decade back, while I was still a rather young lad, I am still young though in my early 30s.

Used to remember how Sum & I meet at Cityhall or along the basking night scene of Clark quay or Boat quay.

Yes, though those dating days were filled with so much fond memories but there were also days when memories turned to a rumble tumble type when our opinions, views and expectations were not met or compromised.

Sum has always been mindful of wanting to invest and grow our relationship. I could remember those days while I was a full-time staff, on certain occasions; I was rather late for my date with Sum. As a result, I’ve my consequences “big time”.

There were times that I nearly “shipwreck” this relationship due to my irresponsible behaviour and “laidback attitude” thinking that if I could just maintain my relationship just as it is, everything will be fine. But it was not the case.

But during those years, I’ve learnt, improved. I’ve learnt to honour her, acknowledge her and made her special among my peers. Yes, it wasn’t easy for a “High S” guy like me. But I CHOOSE to try and make it happen because I also want to invest & make it grow.

Relationship is like a long-term investment bank account. Both holders will have a sum of money to put in. if both account holders have good habit of depositing their resources into this account, it’s capital will grow, it will yield it’s interest and it total sum will keep on growing.

But there are also some after depositing their initial capital, begins to withdraw it’s capital slowly due to some other “commitments/distractions”, thinking that since the other party is still contributing, it is alright. Sooner or later the other account holder will realised that it is very hard to keep on contributing to this account while the other one kept on withdrawing. The account may have a premature termination.

What am I driving at? I am not trying to sell you a new product although I can sell you my “Living water saving account”. But I am saying that RELATIONSHIP NEEDS INVESTMENT!
When was the last time you invest in your relationship (Not only BRG, family, friends)?
Did you ever take your relationship for granted? (Think about it truthfully.)
Did both party ever tried to sit down and starts drawing out “what amount” do you want to invest in your relationship?
What are some creative ideas that I can pump in to make this relationship work?
To both my male & female reader, I would like to pose you these questions.
Are you experiencing some tension in your relationship?
Do you a habit of forgetting to put in your part of the “capital”?
If you think that you’ve gotten full marks for the above questions, Congrats to you! But don’t be laidback. Keep on doing what is right-Always acknowledge, always honour and always make her SPECIAL!

If you think that you didn’t score well for those questions. Don’t feel bad. Don’t feel lousy. Do take up concrete steps to improve on your relationship. Start planning. But first ask for forgiveness. Talk about your likes & dislikes. Hear each other out clearly. It will work. Don’t be lazy! (Laziness always KILLS ALL kind of relationships) Commit your decision to the Lord if you are a Christian.

Well, I am still learning and wants to make it as part of my habit, part of my life. Yes, Joash has come into our lives BUT I still choose to make my dear SPECIAL!

May the Lord bless you as you desire to make your relationship work.